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BDSM WEEK – GUEST POST: Lynn Kelling

We asked some authors who write BDSM about BDSM.  Here’s what Lynn Kelling had to say:

Romance Novels with BDSM 

I am an author of BDSM in the context of contemporary romantic fiction. My goal in crafting a novel defined in those terms is to incorporate the creativity of BDSM into an otherwise multi-layered, unique story of a romance between partners. I’m not setting out to compile handbooks or biographies, full of real-life accounts, burdened by the limits of fact. These are fictional stories, and that’s an important distinction. BDSM practitioners might experiment for only a single evening, on a whim, or they may construct an entire lifestyle around it. Though there is a BDSM community, not everyone who practices BDSM does so the same exact way. Since we all have different tastes, backgrounds and personal boundaries, no one person is going to react to stimulation in the exact same way as everyone else. I’m just as interested in the weekend warriors of kink, exploring new things for the thrill of it with very little guidance at all, as I am with those who have an expert on hand to consult. In fact, it’s sometimes those who don’t quite know what they’re getting themselves into that are the most intriguing to read about. That’s why in my books, Deliver Us and Bound by Lies, there are both characters that have had training and years of experience, and those encountering the world of bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism for the first time.

My books all come with a disclaimer, right up front, which reminds readers that what happens in the book stays in the realm of make-believe. As dependant as BDSM is on its guidelines for the sake of the lives of its participants, the rules of storytelling will always stray from those of reality, and BDSM is not immune to this distinction. In my books, BDSM is an aspect of the characters’ lives, in the same way as are their occupations, their personalities, or their fears. These are not stories solely about BDSM, any more than they are stories strictly about bartending or carpentry. All threads weave together to form the tapestry, and the direction one thread heads off in will always impact those around it.

BDSM is a mutual arrangement between consenting parties filled with trust, respect, and safety. There is a clear balance of power, which distinguishes it from other types of partnering or sexual activity. Whereas it is the Master’s job to maintain control, it is the slave’s job to surrender control. All parties involved are expected to behave with trust in one another, with absolute respect and with supreme safety in mind. That’s where each encounter begins. Those are, basically, the rules. But the wonderful thing about writing fiction is knowing when to bend or break the rules to create dramatic tension or drama. Beyond the BDSM, or any other one element of the plot, is the need to tell a good story – one that is engaging and unlike the countless other offerings every reader already has to choose from. Luckily, fictional characters do not have the same constraints placed upon them as people in the real world. They’re free. Anything can, and should, happen.

If, instead, I wrote crime novels featuring officers of the law, it would be expected that once in a while they would be caught skirting laws, or blatantly breaking them. There would be no surprise otherwise. It is true that every author should keep in mind that when a reader picks up a book, they are placing great trust in the author to handle their feelings with care, should they become emotionally engaged in the characters and their fates. Conversely, though, if nothing dangerous or shocking ever happened to storybook characters, there would be no stories worth telling at all.

Even with BDSM, which is built with strict rules and definitions, the human factor – and our propensity to make mistakes of all shapes and sizes – should not be subtracted. What I love about writing BDSM romance is the wondrous vulnerability hidden within every character, no matter how rugged, experienced or strong-willed. There is always a story behind the story, filled with motivations, secret intentions and cherished hopes which may or may not be fulfilled, in the end. When a person defines themselves as Dominant or submissive, for one night or a lifetime, and yearns to wield power for erotic purposes, I wonder why. It’s not enough to be permitted to visit a private, erotic playground in which public identities are discarded in order to become solely the powerful or the powerless. Sex without story isn’t enough for me. When is that moment when love sparks or passion ignites? When does initial trepidation first yield to total surrender? What happens when binding promises are broken? What are the consequences when accidents happen?

There can be so much honesty and freedom in the realm of BDSM romance. Lovers are tasked with proving themselves, over and over again. Sex is never just sex. It comes with toys, techniques, vastly different roles to play, adventures to embark upon and infinite possibilities.

Lynn Kelling can be found here:  http://www.lynnkelling.com/

4 comments on “BDSM WEEK – GUEST POST: Lynn Kelling

  1. Debra E
    November 23, 2013

    Great post Lynn! I really enjoy the way the couples and characters in your Deliver Us books are all connected to the same BDSM world but all practice and live their lives differently when it comes to the BDSM elements in their relationships. Keeps the story interesting!

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    • lynnkelling
      November 23, 2013

      Thanks Debra! I’ve always been of the opinion that our differences should be celebrated rather than stripped away. If it helps to keep the stories interesting, then I’m doing my job ;) xx

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  2. Sheri
    November 23, 2013

    Wonderful post!
    ‘always a story behind the story’….how true.
    this has been such a great week,
    thank you for your contribution and for helping us shine a little bit of light into the shadows of the misconceptions of BDSM.

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    • lynnkelling
      November 25, 2013

      Thank you, Sheri! It was nice to be able to contribute.

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