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Guest post and giveaway by Josephine Myles: The happy submissive
Part of the How to Train Your Dom in Five Easy Steps Blog Tour
I recently received a pre-release review for How to Train Your Dom in Five Easy Steps, where the reviewer commented that “submissive Eddie knew what he wanted from the start. He was sure of himself, but never pushy or needy. Eddie was a real go-getter of a sub.” Jenni at Boys in Our Books
I’m sincerely glad the reviewer enjoyed this aspect of Eddie’s character, but it got me thinking…it does seem a little sad that it’s unusual enough to warrant comment. After all, the subs I’ve met are all smart, capable people who know what they want out of life. Why are they so often portrayed otherwise in BDSM fiction?
I wonder if it really boils down to the popularity of certain tropes. The trope of the “novice submissive” is everywhere, which is why I wanted to turn it on its head and have a novice Dom paired with an extremely experienced submissive. But it’s not just that trope that’s all pervasive. So much BDSM fiction is dark, the characters struggling with angst and previous abuse—it’s often this abuse that is blamed as the cause for their submissive (or dominant) tendencies.
Okay, that’s all very well in fiction—I’m not much of an angst fan myself although I can understand why it’s so popular—but it just doesn’t gel with what I’ve seen of BDSM in the real world. Most kinky types are in it for fun rather than therapy, and what’s wrong with that? Okay, so a great scene can be cathartic and bring up strong emotions, but it can also be filled with joy and laughter. I’ve met one Dom whose sub often starts giggling when he hurts her. Yes, she really does enjoy it that much.
So when I wrote Eddie I had this idea of the cheerful painslut in my head. Someone who doesn’t want to be flogged because he needs the emotional release, but instead because he really enjoys it. Eddie is a true masochist, gaining pleasure from the right kinds of pain (not all pain—as he says himself, headaches and toothaches are still hell, even for a painslut). Eddie also truly loves other aspects of submission, such as humiliation and bondage. It’s important to stress this, particularly when it comes to verbal and public humiliation. What’s featured in the novel is pretty light stuff (some name calling and being led around on a lead), but it really spices things up for Eddie. He relishes being treated in this way, at least within the confines of a scene. Insulting or disrespecting him outside of one, Jeff soon discovers just how much backbone his submissive has!
So anyway, hooray for the giggling painsluts, who deserve all the pain and domination their kinky little hearts’ desire.
Readers, do you prefer your submissives to be happy or angsty, and why?
The How to Train Your Dom in Five Easy Steps Blog Tour Giveaway!
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Sometimes the little head really does know best.
Jeff White’s needs are simple. All he wants is a submissive to help him explore the dominant side that his ex-girlfriend couldn’t handle. Problem is, inexperience in both dating and domming has resulted in a string of rejections.
What he needs is an experienced sub willing to show him the ins and outs of controlling a scene. Unfortunately, the only one willing to take him on is male, and Jeff is straight. One hundred percent, never-gonna-happen straight.
Easygoing painslut Eddie Powell doesn’t care that Jeff is younger, working class, and shorter. Eddie likes a bit of rough, and Jeff fits the bill perfectly. The trick will be convincing him to follow Eddie’s five-step training programme—which would be easy if Eddie wasn’t starting to have feelings for the rough-around-the-edges landscaper.
Once Jeff lays his hands on Eddie, things definitely get out of hand. But it’ll take more than hot, sweaty, kinky sex to persuade him to come out of the closet—especially to himself.
Warning: Contains a happy sub, a confused Dom, a high ratio of sex to plot, misuse of root ginger, and a suitcase of kink. Written in Jo’s usual exceedingly “English” English.
English through and through, Josephine Myles is addicted to tea and busy cultivating a reputation for eccentricity. She writes gay erotica and romance, but finds the erotica keeps cuddling up to the romance, and the romance keeps corrupting the erotica. Jo blames her rebellious muse but he never listens to her anyway, no matter how much she threatens him with a big stick. She’s beginning to suspect he enjoys it.
Jo publishes regularly with Samhain. She has also been known to edit anthologies and self-publish on occasion.
Website and blog: http://josephinemyles.com/